A holiday romance can turn your vacation into a real adventure. But in order for such relationships to leave only good memories and not turn into bitter disappointment, you need to follow certain rules.
These tips were kindly provided by Jump 4 Love.
There are no people with whom it doesn’t happen. Once or several times, leaving good or, conversely, sad memories, a holiday romance happened with many. Holiday romances are good for those who know how to quickly let it go and forget; who is able to turn off emotions at the right time and turn on the mind again. It is also great for those who treat life easily, like thrills, don’t strive for serious relationships and don’t want to create a strong family. For such people, a holiday romance is like energy for their “battery” of love, new feelings, emotions, and impulses.
What are the pros of holiday romance?
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Improvement of self-esteem. Nothing convinces a man of his irresistibility like compliments and attention from the opposite sex. But here it is necessary to be cautious because self-esteem can increase during romance, but greatly decrease after its completion.
Feeling of happiness. Going on vacation, most people leave their worries and problems at home and it helps them feel really happy. But this feeling can intensify into a hundredfold when you begin to communicate with new people and feel the obvious interest of beautiful girls.
New experiences and sensations. You met a new person and got a new experience of communication (not only mental). You can meet again in the future if it is really good to be together. Who knows, maybe you can start a relationship built outside carefree holidays. Undoubtedly, you can gain experience in personal relationships. Such a holiday romance doesn’t oblige you to anything. It allows you to fully reveal yourself and implement even the most intimate fantasies. You can remain yourself or play a role that you could only dream of at home, for example, to become a reckless hooligan.
Revaluation of life values. Perhaps, this is one of the most useful aspects of holiday romance. After a man experiences very strong emotions, he usually overestimates his own life and what was once important for him.
Careless life. You are perfectly rested, let all your feelings, desires, and impulses go, satisfy all your fantasies, allow yourself just to enjoy life. Love. This point is in the last positions completely not in vain, since such relations very rarely become serious. So, there is always a chance that you will be lucky and meet true love as in holiday romance movies.
What are the cons of holiday romance?
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Venereal diseases. No one should forget about one’s own protection. Whatever emotions and impulses you feel, no matter how this romance ends, including sexual relations, contraception may protect you from many possible unpleasant consequences! Don’t forget about it.
Scammers. Experienced scammers always know where they can profit. So, very often they go to different resorts. After all, it is very simple to deceive relaxed, having a rest and nothing unsuspecting holiday-makers. Therefore, be very careful and vigilant. You have to be very careful when getting acquainted with new people.
Suffering from unrequited feelings. If you are careless and fall in love with your new acquaintance, who doesn’t reciprocate to you, this can turn into a serious problem for you. But in addition to suffering from unrequited love, you can drive yourself into a kind of “emotional trap” that will not let you go any further and establish a serious relationship.
Which would not be possible without my dear sister and maid of honor. Together we braved Divisoria to buy my wedding gown, our entourage flowers, and a lot of other stuff we need for making uhm, rustic accents haha. Mind you, I'm not a crafty person! While I consider myself creative, I prefer to concentrate my creative juices to digital outputs. I make a mess of glues and tapes and I'm averse to any creative endeavor that requires dirtying myself. Which is why I'm sooooo happy that my sister is super game with helping me with JUST ABOUT ANYTHING. <3
So here you go:
Invitation layout and design
Kraft invitation envelopes
Boutonnieres
Flower balls for flower maidens
Guestbook
Loop video for the screen
Invitation layout and design
Of course I had to do our own haha. Shameless plug: www.yanbirog.com for my creative portfolio hehe. 4 cards, 5x7 in. The hardest thing about this is actually doing the map because it involves illustrating and scaling.
Tool: Adobe Photoshop CC
Fonts: Bringshoot, Libre Baskerville, and Monsterrat
Graphics: Freepik
Printing: c/o my father-in-law because they have a print shop yeyyy!
Paper: Linen 246 GSM
Kraft invitation envelopes
I wanted to get kraft envelopes talaga but there seems to be none in the market! National Bookstore has brown baronial envelopes but the flaps are trapezoid, I want triangle flaps HAHA. So yeah no choice but to make our own! The materials are SOOOO CHEAP it was really the labor (of love) that racked up the value of these envelopes haha. So please guys if you received one... I hope you think it's pretty. Then, you can throw it away lol.
There are kraft cartolinas at National Bookstore that cost around ₱8/pc. You can make 5 standard A7 envelopes with them. BUT we've searched some more and found kraft paper being sold at Prestige Paper. They're not on the shelves and are used to wrap packages but the staff offered it to us because we couldn't seem to find what we're looking for. It's local quality recycled paper. It's the same paper used in regular brown envelopes. WHICH IS DEYM PERFECT. Kraft cartolina is too hard and too brown. Prestige Paper's paper (haha) is just right. Peso power? ₱6/sheet. One sheet can make 12 envelopes are you kidding me?!
Nope.
Prestige Paper is located at the back of Fisher Mall in Quezon City.
Boutonnieres
Another major labor of love! We weren't able to use them 'cos we got convinced that it's bad for barong, but oh well!
Fake flowers and leaves are from Cherry Berry in Divisoria.
Jute strings, floral tapes, and pins are from Tabora St. and Anding's (around Divi).
Flower balls for flower maidens
Para maiba, we didn't opt for the basket of flowers for our flower girls. Instead we made these 2 flower balls.
All of the tools were bought from Divisoria, except for the useless tools. The mini flowers cost ₱2/pc, we were advised to get 100 pcs per ball so we got 200pcs. In the end we weren't able to use everything, I think we still got around 100 pcs left haha.
The plan was to cover the ball in green paint before sticking the flowers with glue gun para hindi pangit if may gap. BUT HOLY MOLEY the ball turned out very sticky even after the paint dried. It was kindof useless too in the end because there were no gaps when I finished the project. So much for dirtying my fingersss! ALSO, if you buy flowers like that I suggest you PIN THEM instead of glue-gunning (???) them. I REALIZED THIS TOO LATE haha. You can pin the center of the flower with a dressmaker pin. Imagine my grief when I learned about this.
Guestbook
Since our photo and video package didn't include a guestbook, I decided to make our own. With less than a week left for our wedding, I didn't have enough time to order a custom Photobook huhu. So yeah, ano pa nga ba.
For this project I wanted to get a small sketchpad that's not springed para hindi mukang scrapbook haha, stick some photos inside, and wrap it with kraft paper or whatever haha.
Thank God I found Abbey Sy's My Lettering Progress Keeper at National Bookstore. It's the perfect sketchpad for this DIY! It's not springed, the paper is artist grade watercolor paper from Canson (doesn't really matter, just wanted to spell out the specs haha), it's in the perfect size (7x10in), and it has 25 pages only! Just about right considering I don't have a lot of photos haha and duuuh guestbooks aren't usually thick diba haha, like.. who needs all that space. At best, people are just gonna write congratulations and best wishes over and over HAHA. I really just wanted something they can look at and pass around lololol.
Anyway. I had our prenup photos printed in 4R size at Tronix. I was worried that the prints would come out too glossy but thank God they use Satin paper, which is like half linen and half glossy, basta. Maganda naman sya. ₱7/photo. For the cover, I took inspiration from pinterest and made a heart shaped collage of our photos. I also designed the cover and had it printed in A4 size for ₱30, still at Tronix. Then I used that to wrap the sketchpad. Ang hassle magbalot jsklrd HAHA. The paper, as I mentioned was Satin, so it was sticky and kinda not waterproof hahaha. Sobrang ingat ako madumihan yung papel! But yeah, I pushed through HAHA.
And voila! Our guestbook is doooone! <3 Now that the wedding's over, we're peeling out the yellowing photos and turning the book back into its original form, a sketchpad!
Loop video for the screen
Because I didn't want the screen to be blank all the time, I made a loop video for display purposes. Also to remind the guests of our wedding hashtag #DAVEstWeddingEver haha. I actually love it!
I can't believe how easy this was to do. I had to learn the basics of Adobe Premiere Pro but basically all I wanted was to put some text with a video background - which I got from Youtube. Just search for "HD background video loop", take your pick, and get it using your favorite illegal downloader (char).
Aaaaand that's about it! Thanks for reading all the way, awardddd!
Hay I'm so lazy to chronicle what happened months back during our visits to Divi, specially that I'm writing this 5 months late hahaha. So eto na lang, let me show you the winning gown, as well as a couple of other gowns I tried from various parts of Divi that I'm not ashamed to show you hahaha. LOL isa lang naman ata hahaha
Jenen!
Brought this at Blitz - 168 Mall for ₱8,500 only, accessories included. Most of the gowns I tried range from ₱10,000 to ₱15,000 so I was really sold when I scored this for a lower price. It's the only gown I tried that didn't need alteration so pak, we got it right away. It's an off-shoulder, ball gown with a-line petticoat so the skirt doesn't open too big.
In fairness, props to our photographer Dave Sarabia for making our wedding elements look mahal HAHAHA. I know right, nasa photographer talaga.
Here's how it looks when I tried it on sa Divi. It looks really niiiice and not cheap looking hahaha. In fact when I was wearing it around the store there were people asking the ate how much the gown is. Tas si ate pa-simple na ₱12,000 daw. Wow naman sinuot ko lang tumaas agad ang value! Charot.
If you're going to look for RTW gowns in Divisoria, I suggest you look in the air-conditioned malls na lang because dyahe magsukat sa labas promise!
168 Mall is already brimming with choices, go visit the basement, ground floor (not sure), 4th and 6th floor. Blitz is at the 4th floor around the escalators pala. :D Dragon Mall has a lot of choices too but they're on the pricier side already.
Aside from 168 Mall we also scoured the streets outside because we heard there are tons of great options there as well. True enough, sobrang daaaaaamiii sa labas. We went to Ylaya, Tabora, and the dry markets in between the streets. They're filled with patahians and you'll go crazy with the gowns too. Downside is sobrang init and ang haggard magsukat. As in.
Be prepared, there are no fitting areas in the stalls. Wear comfortable clothing, pieces where you can slip in and out easily. Buti na lang I was trying purely ball gowns so I had the space under the skirt to undo my clothes. Kebs lang din naman cos hello, what is Divi. Not for maartes (like me, internally). We carried through and I was able to try 2 gowns at the palengkes which are all super sikip on me so waley. Bye.
Chungdam Bridal is a bridal boutique offering wedding gowns for rent. Prices range from ₱6,000 to ₱30,000. Sometimes they hold a sale too where you can purchase their gowns.
Their studio is tucked inside Bel Air subdivision in Makati and all visits are made by appointment only. Each customer is given 2 hours to fit at most 3 gowns.
What I loved about my visit here is that their selection is really really huge, the fitting lounge is exclusive for you, and you get the complete fitting experience, including a curtain reveal which really adds to the wow factor HAHAHA. As iiiiin!!! You know the makeover portions in KDramas where the bida girl gets to fit pretty dresses in a boutique and gets a yes/no nod from the obnoxious rich guy? Yeah, except there's no obnoxious rich guy and I can't get a detailed reaction from Jeckie lol.
The quality of the gowns are really great. They're all from Korea so expect the sizes to be good for small to medium built girls. I actually had trouble fitting the gowns because I'm large. The body of the gowns are hard so ramdam ko yung pagka-corset nya. Lakas maka-sexy! Tiis-ganda rin 'cos for the most part I can't breathe. The fabric of the skirts feels super premium din. In short, the gowns are of superb quality.
I got assisted by 2 of their staff, and even the owner Ms. Saera Kim also helped in choosing gowns and picking accessories. So I stripped off behind the curtain, slipped on a petticoat, and got in a tube ball gown.
It's fascinating, the dresses. They're basically tube dresses you can mix and match with their wide selection of bridal boleros. I didn't know that's how it works! I always thought the intricate top details are all sewn on the body. Saya haha.
They tied my hair in a bun, attached a hairpiece and pinned a veil on me. They also made me wear earrings and a necklace, and strapped a mega huge bow at the back of my gown. IT'S SO FREAKING LOVELY. Then they made me hold a bouquet. How perfect is that.
And and and, I'll never forget this: Goblin OST was playing at the background. AAAARGHH.
As much as I want to rent from them already, I still find their rates pricey considering they're just for rent. The gowns I tried range from Php11,000-16,000 and honestly it's a bit too much for me. Anyway, that's not to stop you from trying out their gowns!
Location and Contact
Facebook: The Chungdam Bridal Wedding
Their shop is located at 157 Neptune St., Bel Air Village, Phase 2, Makati, 1209 Metro Manila
GFR by Damsel was the first boutique I visited in search of a wedding gown. If anything, I've already decided I'm not going through all the fuss of having a custom made gown 'cos my preferred style is already abundant in the RTW scene (you know: A-line, ball gown type) and rightly so 'cos I didn't have trouble finding one!
So yeah, there's only really 1 gown that fit me properly when I visited Damsel. It's this off-shoulder white wedding gown with cathedral train that's super niiiiice! I tried on a couple others but they just don't fit me nicely. Also I'm too fat. Too bad they didn't let me fit with a petticoat, could've seen the skirt better.
Fitting for gowns at GFR by Damsel is by appointment only. Or not? But it's better if you do it by appointment 'cos someone will be assigned to assist you in fitting. There will be other people coming in at the fitting area so yeah, your timeslot is not exclusive for you. But you're allowed to fit as many gowns as you can.
Rates:
Tips for fitting wedding gowns at Damsel:
Come early. Get a 10am-12nn weekday slot if possible so that there are less people coming in. There's a 9am schedule but the mall isn't open by then so baka ma-hassle kayo with parking. I think 10 is the best time hehe
Be warned though that their location is very ma-traffic cos it's along Chino Roces Ave.
Browse their Facebook page and take note of the gowns you want to try. Send it beforehand and request for them to be pulled out in advance para mabilis yung fitting nyo.
There are wedding gowns that are not published in their page. Ask for their catalog baka may magustuhan din kayo from there.
If you're not ma-pamahiin bring your fiance with you, they have a rental package that includes the groom's attire as well, so why not.
When we finished fitting I already wanted to get the gown I tried on but figured no not yet, I have to look for other options pa. Haha
Location and contact:
Their shop is located at
LG4 Lower Ground Level,
Makati Cinema Square,
Chino Roces Ave. Makati City
Draft entry dated June or July. Published just now cos I totally forgot hahaha
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I won't be surprised if I get called out nastily for slacking off too much at work. For the past few months I'm not doing any scripting and it bums me 'cos you know, that's the fun part of my job. Right now I'm assigned to collecting summary reports and analysis for a bunch of projects we did in the past and it's boring as hell. So boring it's delayed for months. There are days when all I ever did was check out the excel document from Sharepoint and stare at it. Seriously. No new rows. No significant data added. I don't know how do deal with this immense feeling of demotivation. It's not like I have better things to do. Err, actually I do.
Jeckie and I are condo hunting right now. Mostly me actually haha. We're looking at possible places to live in after the wedding. Since I'll be working mid-shift in Makati, and Jeckie reg-shift at Cubao, we figured the best place to stay would be around EDSA-Mandaluyong area. I'm looking at the bunch of condos littered around there, SMDC Light, Pioneer Woodlands, Flair Towers, Pines Peak, etc.
My choice? Hands down Flair Towers because the building layout is more breathable than their neighboring condos. I have a bias for DMCI. Anyway, what I'm looking for is a semi-furnished real 1 bedroom unit with balcony because I need walls and I need air. Our budget is around 15k per month inclusive of any association dues. Long shot but I'm still looking. So far, our budget is only good for a bare unit, something we have yet to consider.
Oh, allow me to blab about the joys of condo hunting. First, I'm learning about the market value of rental establishments around the metro.
Makati
I started searching at Makati because I thought we were both gonna be assigned there. For 15k you can get a fully furnished studio with wobbly brass bunk beds, mismatched furniture, and zero ventilation. 18k would give you larger windows (where only 1/4 can be opened and at a maximum of 45 degrees only) and probably a balcony. Hay. Those are my observations from the row of condos at Malugay and Chino Roces listed at RentPad (Avida West, Linear, Beacon, etc.).
Ideally, I would want to live inside Salcedo or Legaspi Village. You know, the residential areas surrounding Ayala Avenue because there are trees and parks at least haha plus it's walking distance to the actual CBD. But the condos there are not cheap. They're super old and ridiculously priced too (Asian Mansion, Prince Plaza, etc). 50k for 2 bedrooms anyone? The cuts are definitely bigger but the flooring is mostly outdated wood parquet and the walls are trimmed with moldings. Not my style.
EDSA-Boni/Mandaluyong
Boni area is slightly cheaper, and there are also a lot of condos around. It's central enough and transit oriented too so yeah, not a bad place overall. Except that it's too industrialized for my own liking, it's almost suffocating. I didn't try looking at the Makati side of Mandaluyong, which is by the left side of EDSA if you're north bound. I dunno how the place is called lol. I just didn't like the environment there haha. Based from the route the colorum vans used to ply whenever I go to Makati CBD, I see shanties, towering condos that look run-down, and it's so frkn dense with people, so nope. You can maybe get a place there for 5-10k though. Haven't explored the deeper parts yet but I didn't like the idea of riding a jeepney or a tryke to work so we skipped it. I skipped it hehe.
The other side of EDSA was bearable. So many new condos to choose from, but I didn't really like most of them. Narrow hallways, ugly cabinets, poor tile works, screaming tile gaps, bad bathroom layout, I could go on, the finishes are just so bad. You really gotta choose your developer seriously if you're getting a condo.
Anyway, fully furnished studios range from 13k-18k depends on where you're looking. If you're super arte like me, get a bare unit and customize it to your heart's content. The condos in this area are too clustered together, IMO. Flair, Light, Pines Peak, Pioneer Woodlands, Sunshine, Gateway Regency, etc. They're all within a block of each other. If you're lucky you may still get a little sunshine lol. The area behind these condos are mostly factories, outlets, and low buildings. Then there's the residential Kapitolyo side which isn't so dense. This side of Mandaluyong is generally nicer lol.
After six years of being together, six years of laughter and friendship, I decided to break up with my boyfriend. It took almost a year to emotionally prepare for it, but it had to be done.
We knew the time would come eventually, and we both agreed it's for the best.
And so one day, on the eve of our 6th anniversary, we called an end to our relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend.
September 22, 2017. It's all over. And surprisingly, there were no tears.
When all the words have been said, we took a moment to let everything sink in.
And then that's it.
I will never forget that day, when we broke our hearts into two...
and gave each other a piece.
My boyfriend of six years, finally became an ex.
But more importantly, he became my husband.
Want to know how we did it? Here's my 5 secrets to a long-lasting relationship:
Also, enjoy the random photos from our prenup lol
1. Annoy each other
In short, be each other's best friend. Even studies agree with me here, thanks Huffpost. Marrying your best friend is the best romantic decision you'll ever make, trust me! It's the ultimate test of patience, you know, living with someone who's annoying to the bones. You're guaranteed to grow more mature, more patient, and more understanding. And best of all, you're guaranteed someone who knows you inside out. Someone who knows how to cushion your every downfall, and support you in times of need. That's what friends are for.
2. Make him do the laundry
Believe me, it's the one thing you can entrust to him when it comes to house chores. I have strict standards about keeping cleanliness around the house. And for some reason we don't share the same criteria. But surprisingly he does well with the laundry.
And quite frankly, I have to thank Del Fabric Conditioner for that! I've been a huge fan of Del because of its mild yet fragrant scent. We use lavender for our clothes but when I learned about their new variants Forever Joy and Forever Love, I just had to try them.
And in fairness it did not disappoint. The rags we use for cleaning and our wasting Good Morning towels were literally reborn. All thanks to Del Forever Joy and Forever Love. Our cleaning rags were gifted with 15x longer lasting bangoooooooo that's sure to give regular detergents a good run for their money.
Forever Love, the pink one, smells like cherries. Forever Joy also has a sweet and fragrant smell that I can't spell but it's closer to lavender so I was sooooo inlove with the scent.
Big shout out to Team Kramer for trusting Del to keep their clothes mabango all day. In light of all the controversies they're facing regarding their parenting style, they've done a great job upholding their values. I admire them for keeping their faith and putting God at the center of their family. We have much to learn from this couple.
3. Cuddle when you're angry
You may have fought a lot while you're dating, but believe me, you'll fight a lot more when you're married. But that's part of life. Just don't let your anger consume you. The Biblical approach to resolving issues with your spouse is to not let the sun go down while you're still angry. Of course not literally, but ideally, don't leave anything unresolved for too long.
I'm blessed to have a husband who doesn't face me when he's angry. He cools down by himself and approaches me when he's ready, all within the day. It's hard to sleep beside someone you're mad at. And I've proven a lot of times that my silent cuddles work wonders when he's mad. But it doesn't end there. The silent form of affection, despite comforting doesn't help you resolve your issues entirely. When you're angry, cool down and let the other know you're not mad anymore, then talk about it. This brings me to my next tip.
4. Stop dropping hints
Men are simple creatures and would appreciate it if women would quit beating around the bush and being passive aggressive with their issues. Marriage doesn't magically give our husbands psychic abilities to hack into our minds and decode what we meant when we say we're fine. If you keep speaking metaphorically to your husband that means you're not comfortable communicating with him at all. It pays to be direct.
Be ready to spell everything literally to your partner. From your excitement to your grievances, you gotta let your spouse know what you feel. In our six years of being together I thought we already knew each other completely, but it turns out there's still a ton of things we don't understand about each other. Beat the gap by practicing open communication. Talk to each other everyday. Tell them about your work. Share all the funny things you saw online. At the end of the day, you've only got each other to talk to lol so don't shut up. Annoy each other like friends do haha.
Last but not the least,
5. Keep God at the center
A healthy relationship is where 3 parties are involved. Man, woman, and God. What were you thinking haha.
Put God first. A husband who puts God first will become a good husband to his wife, and vice versa. Without the Bible to guide a relationship, everything can go haywire. You'll be influenced by all the things modern society is shoving down our throats. Let the Bible be your moral compass and let it guide your marriage. A family that prays together, stays together. Cliche but true!
Before I end
Remember that love is a choice, an action verb that requires work. And like everything in life, you must work hard to stay in love. Keep it a point to choose loving your partner no matter what happens.
Sharing with you our same-day-edit by God's Grace Productions. Shoutout to our official photographer too, Dave Sarabia, for capturing our favorite moments! ❤ Still on wedding high, am I?
