The Relationship Advice You Won’t Want To Ignore

Relationships can be hard work at times. Let’s be honest you tend to go through some of the toughest times of your life with a partner, husband or wife. They see you at your best, but then they see you at your worst. You love them, you can dislike them, but you always remain together, right? For some, relationships can get a little off course. This is when you start to wonder whether you were the real deal, to begin with. Many relationships head to this crossroads at some point. With that in mind, here are a few golden pieces of advice that shouldn’t be ignored when it comes to your relationship. Let’s hope it helps you get back on track if you find you and your other half struggling.

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Don’t go to bed on an argument

Arguments are going to happen. Whether they involve shouting or just disgruntled text messages sent to one another you are going to disagree at some point. But it’s how you handle it that is the key to a lasting relationship. While you may both be too stubborn to apologise or wave the white flag, never go to bed on the argument. Always accept it for what it is, agree to disagree and have a good night's kiss and move on. It’s unhealthy to sleep on it and take things on to the next day. 

Keep the relationship alive

Relationships take work. We all know that. But yet many of us don’t put in as much effort as we should. We can get a little complacent. However, this is when things can start to go sour. Keep your relationship alive by spending time together. Intimacy is very important, and often this can be the first sign things aren't going right if you are lacking in this area, this is when you may want to see some advice from Susie Tuckwell - Sex Therapist to add some spark back. You could also consider a regular date night where you are just a couple. No work or children to think about. 

Communicate

For any relationship to thrive communication is key. This means talking to one another about your day, your thoughts and your feelings. It doesn’t take much to start a conversation. Or even send a quick text to let the other know you are thinking of them. Talking is key to a lasting relationship, so don’t let that fire fizzle out. 

Accept what could be going on within your relationship

Sometimes there are big issues within relationships that just get brushed under the carpet for another day. But those days never come, and you find that your relationship suffers because of it. Try and accept what could be going on. Perhaps there is a stressor that you are both having to deal with, maybe things are tough right now. Sometimes you have to accept that a relationship won’t work and you’d be happier if you considered separating. Divorce can often be a good resolve for many couples. But accepting what is going on is key. Chances are tackling your issues could make you a stronger couple. 

Remember you are individuals as well as a couple

Finally, try and remember that you are individuals as well as a couple. Often we don’t get enough time to ourselves which can be vitally important for our wellbeing. 

Let’s hope this advice helps you with any relationship woes. 

Holiday Romance: Pros and Cons

Disclaimer: this is a guest post.

A holiday romance can turn your vacation into a real adventure. But in order for such relationships to leave only good memories and not turn into bitter disappointment, you need to follow certain rules.

These tips were kindly provided by Jump 4 Love. There are no people with whom it doesn’t happen. Once or several times, leaving good or, conversely, sad memories, a holiday romance happened with many. Holiday romances are good for those who know how to quickly let it go and forget; who is able to turn off emotions at the right time and turn on the mind again. It is also great for those who treat life easily, like thrills, don’t strive for serious relationships and don’t want to create a strong family. For such people, a holiday romance is like energy for their “battery” of love, new feelings, emotions, and impulses.

What are the pros of holiday romance? 

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Improvement of self-esteem. Nothing convinces a man of his irresistibility like compliments and attention from the opposite sex. But here it is necessary to be cautious because self-esteem can increase during romance, but greatly decrease after its completion.

Feeling of happiness. Going on vacation, most people leave their worries and problems at home and it helps them feel really happy. But this feeling can intensify into a hundredfold when you begin to communicate with new people and feel the obvious interest of beautiful girls.

New experiences and sensations. You met a new person and got a new experience of communication (not only mental). You can meet again in the future if it is really good to be together. Who knows, maybe you can start a relationship built outside carefree holidays. Undoubtedly, you can gain experience in personal relationships. Such a holiday romance doesn’t oblige you to anything. It allows you to fully reveal yourself and implement even the most intimate fantasies. You can remain yourself or play a role that you could only dream of at home, for example, to become a reckless hooligan.

Revaluation of life values. Perhaps, this is one of the most useful aspects of holiday romance. After a man experiences very strong emotions, he usually overestimates his own life and what was once important for him.

Careless life. You are perfectly rested, let all your feelings, desires, and impulses go, satisfy all your fantasies, allow yourself just to enjoy life. Love. This point is in the last positions completely not in vain, since such relations very rarely become serious. So, there is always a chance that you will be lucky and meet true love as in holiday romance movies.

What are the cons of holiday romance?

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Venereal diseases. No one should forget about one’s own protection. Whatever emotions and impulses you feel, no matter how this romance ends, including sexual relations, contraception may protect you from many possible unpleasant consequences! Don’t forget about it.

Scammers. Experienced scammers always know where they can profit. So, very often they go to different resorts. After all, it is very simple to deceive relaxed, having a rest and nothing unsuspecting holiday-makers. Therefore, be very careful and vigilant. You have to be very careful when getting acquainted with new people.

Suffering from unrequited feelings. If you are careless and fall in love with your new acquaintance, who doesn’t reciprocate to you, this can turn into a serious problem for you. But in addition to suffering from unrequited love, you can drive yourself into a kind of “emotional trap” that will not let you go any further and establish a serious relationship.

A love to last: 5 Secrets to a long-lasting relationship

After six years of being together, six years of laughter and friendship, I decided to break up with my boyfriend. It took almost a year to emotionally prepare for it, but it had to be done.

We knew the time would come eventually, and we both agreed it's for the best.

And so one day, on the eve of our 6th anniversary, we called an end to our relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend.

September 22, 2017. It's all over. And surprisingly, there were no tears.
When all the words have been said, we took a moment to let everything sink in.

And then that's it.

I will never forget that day, when we broke our hearts into two...
and gave each other a piece.

My boyfriend of six years, finally became an ex.

But more importantly, he became my husband.

Want to know how we did it? Here's my 5 secrets to a long-lasting relationship:
Also, enjoy the random photos from our prenup lol

1. Annoy each other

In short, be each other's best friend. Even studies agree with me here, thanks Huffpost. Marrying your best friend is the best romantic decision you'll ever make, trust me! It's the ultimate test of patience, you know, living with someone who's annoying to the bones. You're guaranteed to grow more mature, more patient, and more understanding. And best of all, you're guaranteed someone who knows you inside out. Someone who knows how to cushion your every downfall, and support you in times of need. That's what friends are for.

2. Make him do the laundry

Believe me, it's the one thing you can entrust to him when it comes to house chores. I have strict standards about keeping cleanliness around the house. And for some reason we don't share the same criteria. But surprisingly he does well with the laundry.

And quite frankly, I have to thank Del Fabric Conditioner for that! I've been a huge fan of Del because of its mild yet fragrant scent. We use lavender for our clothes but when I learned about their new variants Forever Joy and Forever Love, I just had to try them.

And in fairness it did not disappoint. The rags we use for cleaning and our wasting Good Morning towels were literally reborn. All thanks to Del Forever Joy and Forever Love. Our cleaning rags were gifted with 15x longer lasting bangoooooooo that's sure to give regular detergents a good run for their money.

Forever Love, the pink one, smells like cherries. Forever Joy also has a sweet and fragrant smell that I can't spell but it's closer to lavender so I was sooooo inlove with the scent.

Big shout out to Team Kramer for trusting Del to keep their clothes mabango all day. In light of all the controversies they're facing regarding their parenting style, they've done a great job upholding their values. I admire them for keeping their faith and putting God at the center of their family. We have much to learn from this couple.

3. Cuddle when you're angry

You may have fought a lot while you're dating, but believe me, you'll fight a lot more when you're married. But that's part of life. Just don't let your anger consume you. The Biblical approach to resolving issues with your spouse is to not let the sun go down while you're still angry. Of course not literally, but ideally, don't leave anything unresolved for too long.

I'm blessed to have a husband who doesn't face me when he's angry. He cools down by himself and approaches me when he's ready, all within the day. It's hard to sleep beside someone you're mad at. And I've proven a lot of times that my silent cuddles work wonders when he's mad. But it doesn't end there. The silent form of affection, despite comforting doesn't help you resolve your issues entirely. When you're angry, cool down and let the other know you're not mad anymore, then talk about it. This brings me to my next tip.

4. Stop dropping hints

Men are simple creatures and would appreciate it if women would quit beating around the bush and being passive aggressive with their issues. Marriage doesn't magically give our husbands psychic abilities to hack into our minds and decode what we meant when we say we're fine. If you keep speaking metaphorically to your husband that means you're not comfortable communicating with him at all. It pays to be direct. Be ready to spell everything literally to your partner. From your excitement to your grievances, you gotta let your spouse know what you feel. In our six years of being together I thought we already knew each other completely, but it turns out there's still a ton of things we don't understand about each other. Beat the gap by practicing open communication. Talk to each other everyday. Tell them about your work. Share all the funny things you saw online. At the end of the day, you've only got each other to talk to lol so don't shut up. Annoy each other like friends do haha.

Last but not the least,

5. Keep God at the center

A healthy relationship is where 3 parties are involved. Man, woman, and God. What were you thinking haha.

Put God first. A husband who puts God first will become a good husband to his wife, and vice versa. Without the Bible to guide a relationship, everything can go haywire. You'll be influenced by all the things modern society is shoving down our throats. Let the Bible be your moral compass and let it guide your marriage. A family that prays together, stays together. Cliche but true!

Before I end

Remember that love is a choice, an action verb that requires work. And like everything in life, you must work hard to stay in love. Keep it a point to choose loving your partner no matter what happens.

Sharing with you our same-day-edit by God's Grace Productions. Shoutout to our official photographer too, Dave Sarabia, for capturing our favorite moments! ❤ Still on wedding high, am I?

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Help my friend win a Colgate Optic White Dream Wedding!

My friend is getting married soon and would love it if you could help her win her dream wedding! Please help me gather votes for her by doing the following:

1. Go to https://apps.facebook.com/dream-wedding/

2. Click on 'Top 10 Videos'

3. Look for Inez Celestino and click 'View'

4. Then click 'Vote'

That's it! You don't have to watch the video, or even share that you voted, but of course it would be very much appreciated it you do!

Do this daily until November 26 and help her realize her dream wedding! A prenup photoshoot by Pat Dy and a SDE from Jason Magbanua lang naman ang prize! bongga!

We still need some major ass kicking to do with the votes, they're currently on second but we're very very near that #1 spot.

So, help us please? :D

Trivia: they're getting wed on March 14, 2015 and are both Math teachers! that's kind of a Pi wedding you knoooow! hahaha cool no? osya let's vote in and make this epic wedding epicer (ano raw)!

Thank youuuu!

obligatory (post-)vday post haha

akala ko non di na ko magkaka-boyfriend. pag 20 ka na tapos wala pang nanliligaw/nagpaparamdam sayo kahit isa, magtataka ka na. haharap ka sa salamin at tatanungin mo sarili mo, "pangit ba ko?!", pupunta ka sa nanay mo at huhugot ka ng confidence, tapos luluhod ka kay Lord na bigyan ka ng isang meaningful na love life. at dahil choosy ka pa, gagawa ka ng checklist. eto nga pala yung ideal guy ko, written on august 2009 in a private journal kasi secret lang namin yun ni Lord. pero nung Feb 2010, pinost ko na rin. baka kamo may interesado. HAHA

akalain mo nung august 2010, may close friend akong napilit kong umamin sakin. chos. at dahil na-shock ako, isang buong taon ko syang iniwasan. galing no. yung kaisa-isang taong confirmed na may gusto sakin, tinulak ko papalayo. ganyan tayong mga gerlies eh, ang arte. pero naman, pag nasa faculty room lang kasi yung tatay mo, at estudyante pa nya yung frinend-zone mo, aba shempre kelangan magpaka-virtuous kuno. HAHA

it took a year for the awkwardness to die down. after non, dahil feeling ko safe na, wala na, babayoo na, unti-unting bumalik ang dati naming turingan bilang magkaibigan. HAHA pero hindi talaga exactly bumalik. matagal kasi ako ma-ilang. mga years haha. pero in fairness nung akala ko wala na, meron pa pala. this time, i received my first ever "formal" confession, complete with the ever awkward cheeseburger from mcdo. from there i knew i had to give him a chance. kasi in fairness antagal na pala nyang kinikimkim yung pagibig nya sakin. chos. at unti unti na ring nahuhulog ang loob ko sa kanya. oha. hindi naman ako nagkamali. pinagdasal ko naman to at alam kong may purpose si Lord sa kaganapang iyon. di naglaon, naging kami. my first (confirmed) admirer, first suitor and my first boyfriend. epic 20! and the rest is His story. <3

one certain monthsary (actually hindi ako sure kung kelan haha), he gave me a piece of paper with a checklist of all the things i wrote on my Ideal Guy post. i had the chance to go through the list once more, and only then did i realize that he's all i ever asked for. and along with that realization is a revelation that God has actually provided everything I need even BEFORE i asked for it. diba sabi nga sa Mat 7:7... Ask and it shall be given unto you..

indeed. nakakatawa lang na nasa harap mo na pala yung taong para sayo, kung san san pa ko sumisilip... sa kabilang classroom, sa library, sa basketball court, sa NRMF, sa UPLB... dito ko narealize yung essence ng isang part ng Mat 7:7... seek and you shall find. not because you are seeking for something means you will find the actual thing... minsan iba yung makikita mo. sa lahat ng lugar na nag-"seek" ako, isa lang ang na-find ko... they're not for me. HEHE

kaya naman for everything you've done for me, thank you jeckie!
for waking me up every 5am so we could devo together, thank you!
for encouraging me to keep a more personal relationship with the Lord, thank you!
for inspiring me to worry less, and quit being judgmental, thank you!
for saying i'm beautiful, thank you!
for coming over at 5am to bring me my favorite breakfast... thank you!
and most specially...
for keeping our relationship virtuous and God-centered, thank you is not enough. :)

i love you! yeyy! >XD

OMGEE first monthsary!

yey i believe this is the first time i'm gonna talk about my boyfriend for real! who would've thought i'd finally have a boyfriend! hahaha i thought i'd be one of those NBSB for life girls, forever frustrated and never noticed by the opposite sex. but owell, yehey yehey!

this was such a cool cool day! >XD after the ADEPT training, we went to church and spent the rest (well a few hours) of the night at RnB (Read n Brew) cafe near my place. 

first boyfriend!

first devotion together! 

tall mocha frappe for Php 70  >:)

super tall banana smoothie for Php 60

blueberry cheesecake for Php 55

ribs. Php 115. basta ribs yan. >:P

jec's gift! >XD photoshopped 23 peso bill! &hearts; &hearts; 

my gift! half long bong doodle >XD 

hihi

my jeckie chan! &hearts;

it feels great to be in love.

like srlsy! >XD

thank you Lord! >XD

thank you so much for making this day super duper special! yehey! >XD i love you jericho chanco dave! >XD

Love versus In Love

i've read this before but failed to note it. now i'm reposting it from tumblr because this is exactly how i see it.

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don’t blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being “in love”, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.”

Louis de Bernières (Captain Corelli’s Mandolin)

and yet most people think they're in it for the long haul without realizing they're still in the superficial "in love" stage. anyway, enonaman. osabagay mags-subside naman talaga sya eventually as the relationship progresses, and that's where you have to decide whether you're truly in it for the endless lug. paka old fashioned e no, parang walang patutunguhan yung mga ganitong pananaw. pero totoo yan a!

true love waits daw.

what is true love waits, is it waiting for the one you 'love' because the circumstances won't allow you to be together right now? i don't think 'love' is what's being nurtured when you wait, lalo na kung magkalayo kayo. ma-iinip ka lang, magiging doubtful, osige na nga magiging patient ka rin, pero aasa ka  naman sa walang kasiguraduhan. magseselos ng walang dahilan, eventually magiging nega ka na! pag-galang lang yung paghihintay kasi may kanya kanya kayong priorities. para kang naghihintay sa pilang pagka-haba haba, pagdating sa dulo, heaven! pero habang nakapila ka ba tumitindi yung pag-ibig mo? pag-ibig ba talaga yon or physical yearning sa isang bagay na matagal ipinagkait sayo? iba ang possessiveness ng mga deprived wahaha true love waits is actually not about waiting, para sakin lang naman. haha yung true love hindi nabubuo yan habang naghihintay, nadedevelop yan habang nasa isang relasyon kayo. at yung itinagal nung development na yun, yun ang essence ng true love waits. joke!

e kung sabihin ko bang hindi ko naman issue yan, me maniniwala ba? napaisip lang naman ako talaga e. tanong nyo pa kay terai >:D

good morning thesis! ano nanaman kaya ang gagawin namin ngayoooon >X(

Day 10 - Discuss your first love

First love never dies!!!! jusme. napaka-echos netong entry na to. mamaya iiyak nanaman ako. >:|
i've already mentioned him hundreds and hundreds of times in this blog already.

my first love was a tragedy LOL. yun lang. bow. ayoko umiyak e.

the moment i realized i loved him, he's already in love with someone else. sayang nomon. if i realized it sooner, i could've played with his advances and became his girlfriend but no. i can't 'play' hahaha. more so, the pre-courting or pano ba yun, pre-confessing timeframe is too awkward. too friggin awkward. or maybe i was too busy not to realize he was already crossing the line. i never realize stuff like that. not with super close friends yknow, which he was. it's always fun fun fun fun and no hidden desires in between. i don't think i'm dense either but i always have to be reminded, or given a low blow for me turn my 'sensitivity' radar on. after which it can't be turned off HAHAHA problematic sya in fairness.

and i thought i could give you a decent post about it but i guess i'm wrong.

hay love. but yknow seriously. i hope one day i'll be able to make it up to him. to patch things up. because honestly, i couldn't imagine myself with anyone else. he's like the most comfortable guy to be with (next to my daddy shempre haha). he was my favorite guy. this is how it sucks falling in love with your best friend, and letting your pride win. or more fittingly, this is how it sucks realizing you're in love too late.

pero shempre joke lang yan. move on. let go. past is past. on with the future. better yet, on with who's here.

♥

yesterday, my parents renewed their marriage vows! it was an event hosted by the home builders ministry where my parents are part of. 16 couples made it on that night, and 16 couples went out like newly weds fully blessed by the essence of the renewal. yehey! it was an emotion filled night because of 2 things:

1. my parents! they were so sweet. i cried when i saw their pictures. they'll be on their 23rd anniversary this july! yehey!

hm, there was a slight glitch before the ceremony started, MOMMY DOESN'T HAVE A BOUQUET!!! >8O and we didn't want her to walk on the aisle flowerless, so daddy asked me to buy flowers at the mall. mega haggardnessss sobra! i was brisk walking along EDSA and the temptation to jaywalk is sooo... tempting. haha but i still used the over over overpass and ran to holland tulips. dyusko. of all the flower shops in SM North, holland tulips lang naalala ko, ang mahal pa!!! oyon, tapos the flowers weren't the wedding type so i had to ask kuya to arrange them for me. it took almost 10 minutes and i was in such a rush after that i ran back! as in i was running at the mall with pang-abay flowers. nakakatawa lang pero wth. siguro iniisip nung mga tao, late na ko sa pupuntahan kong kasal. totoo naman. >:|

thank God! because i arrived JUST IN TIME. akalain mo, i was out of breath and sweaty when i got to mommy. they were already lined up , and they're the first couple pa! i saw her holding 3 pieces of what seemed like borrowed mini plastic roses. i gave the bouquet and took out the pitiful roses. i can't bear seeing my mom walking with those. >:'(

yehey for the flowers! >:D

ayon. whew. okay naman. sakit ng paa ko. but everything's worth it. nakakaiyaaaakkkk. >:'''(



2. terai told me this friggin traggic story she made up about this bat roaming  around the church. so we were watching the ceremony and a lone bat was flying around the place tirelessly. then terai went,

"alam mo ba kung bakit di sya mapakali? kasi hinihintay nya yung asawa nyang bat. magrerenew din sila ng marriage vows."

then she went on with her story, of why the bat was flying anxiously. that bat and his wife were supposed to meet at the church for the event, the wife bat made it first but she got caught by the maintenance people who killed her and threw her body outside. they thought it'd be a trouble to let the bat be, it could pee on the curtains and it could poop on the stage. that was enough reason for them to kill the poor thing. the husband didn't know this so he kept on waiting, flying around, searching for his wife. This went on for years, the husband waiting and the wife missing.

then i cried so hard i had to cover my entire face because i felt bad for the bats and also, i just further ruined my eyeliner. terai must've felt guilty for making me cry so she continued,

"pero and hindi alam nung husband, nung tinapon yung katawan nung wife, may napadaang veteranarian. tas napulot nya yung naghihingalong she-bat tas ginamot nya! ui ginamot na!"

BWAHAHA tas tawa na ko ng tawa. sakto dumaan pa si pastor na naka white suit! so sabi ko, "terai, sya yung veterinarian!" but we both know he's a dentist pero pwede na rin. haha so the wife bat recovered and eventually, she came back to the church where his husband is waiting. kaso by the time she got back, wala ng event. but that didn't stop them from renewing their vows. and so they lived happily ever afterrrr! >8D

uhh, napaka-lame ng bawi but at least happy ending. haha ang sakit sa dibdib e!

ang corny talaga ng mundo

sabi sa service kanina, "we love him, because he first loved us." ayon daw yun sa John something. napaisip tuloy ako, kung di ko ba alam na mahal ako ng Diyos hindi ko rin sya mamahalin? ganun din kaya sa tao? laging may nauunang magmahal? tapos with that knowledge in mind you begin to love the other person back? ganon ba yun Lord? kawawa ka naman pala. hindi lahat ng minahal mo, mahal ka rin. kaw na nga nauna. tsk.

she annoys me, but.

every time we meet she never fails to brag about how much her boyfriend is jealous of the guys around her. all of her stories stress out how her man of x months is so possessive of her. i really wanna shut her off cos whenever i listen to her, i can only think that she only wants everyone to know that she has a boyfriend, when in fact NONE OF US FUCKING CARE. she reminds everyone she talks to that her boyfriend loves her so much and that he's so sweet and jealous and all the crap you swoon over in pajama parties. i never had a conversation with her wherein she failed to mention her boyfriend (or the fact that she has one) at least thrice. -_-; i mean, i know them both and have been annoyed by their presence countless of times but this is the time i shift my understanding to the lighter side. so uhm given that i've been thinking badly of her a couple of chances, i have to put my guilt-reducing mechanism to work and you know, try to look at the briiiight side!!! >8D

the way the girl brags about her un-braggable bf is sweet. she boasts about how her bf reacted when someone is allegedly flirting with her. basically she boasts about everything that makes her bf insecure. then i realized, this girl is proud of every little thing his boyfriend does for her. it gives her the assurance that he is, indeed, in love and wants to protect their relationship. and she wants to be constantly reminded of it. she wants us to think that she has a boyfriend who loves her so friggin annoying much.

she's proud that her boyfriend loves her. period.
(or maybe she's just too proud that she has a boyfriend. hah. joke lang. sarreh)

it may be the only thing she brags about regarding her boyfriend, but it's the one thing everyone's been reluctant to express, and she's not... because SHE IS SO SURE ABOUT IT. i never thought i'd come to this side of her annoyingness. haha pero diba? other girls are proud that their boyfriends are good looking, smart and sporty, but her boyfriend has none of that to boot, yet she talks about him with such pride like no amount of achievement could compare. how many girlfriends are like her?

hah hindi ako ganyan e. i always want to be impressed.

will sleep for awhile hehe >:D

♥

maybe it's love, maybe it's something else. either way, it remains a very special feeling. something i've never felt before. something that lingers every single day. whether i'll wait or give up isn't a necessary decision to make, either way, he'll never know. he's not aware how well he breaks my heart.
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reading romance novels make me yearn so much. when i read Confessions of a Shopaholic, i wanted my own Luke Brandon. now that i'm reading The Choice, i want my own Travis Parker. of all the leading guys i've read about, Travis Parker has the best character. maybe because of the fact that he's already at the 'settling' stage. you know, looking for a potential wife to a raise a family with.... so he's done with all the play dates and is taking love seriously. yeah, i'll get there... someday. i like it when a man thinks about his future, his wife, kids and job. ♥
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someone told me i have to groom myself better, like a girl. comb my hair and wear skirt.
i don't know why i still get those, i think i'm girly enough. @_@ have you seen my vanity kit? i have two blush-ons, a lipgloss, lipstick, mirror, face powder, ointment and a hair clip! and believe it or not, i use them all! hahaha is it my problem if my skin eats them?

but you knooow, i'm getting there! i'm gonna have my hair relaxed and my hair cut short so i don't have to iron it everyday. and maybe i'll wear a skirt next school year. yes, maybe.
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ah! and i thought my php midterm exam didn't run! but guess what? our class had a retake awhile ago and i was exempted, along with brian (timing na timing ang absent mo) and erni. sir says we're perfect na daw! yeheeey! 4 out of 6! awesome. just awesome.

RA you're my saviooooor! thank you! >:D
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LB this saturday! >:D

fallacy

aaaaahhh ok.


sometimes people let suffering penetrate their lives because it's the only thing that keeps them company when no one else is there. they blindly and desperately grasp anything within reach, and hold on, like their lives depend on it...even though it is painful, even if they know it will kill them in the process. after all, that's all they've got. to suffer is the easiest option, the nearest hole they could hide into. and even if it gives them a false sense of hope, they will let it pass because those who say 'let go and move on' are only there to tell them what to do, but not stay until the pain is gone.


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that's unfair though. because the hole who got yourself into, can fit only one person. and we're here outside, waiting for you to crawl out on your own. now i'm on the 2nd person POV. haha really, now.

currently at mcdo, global city waiting for daddy. yeheeey! i finally have Art of Motion! >:D >:D and because the battery's dying, magbabasa na lang ako ng libro. hehe >:P bye for now.

uhh, good morning?

#1) how to get

get what? the question box? or the quantum pendant (based on your referral link)?
assuming that was a complete question you submitted there...
quantum pendant: i dunno where to buy it, we just met an agent who's selling it. try searching for Quantum Science. hehe
question box: go here... http://www.response-o-matic.com/

:D

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i slept for around 2 hours after coming home from school! >:D bwahahaha!

it's feb! i did mention it's going to be all about 'love' (or crushes, mostly) in this blog! let me start by featuring (yet again, but for the first time in this blog) my artwork entitled My Heart Says it All with a poem my friend plaridel created just for it >:D


my heart says it all by ~melodia04 on deviantART

my heart says it all
and i draw it true
with a steady hand
to guide me through

in black and white
our story emerges
i don't need rainbows
to color the senses

my heart says it all
i want the world to see
love is what we live for
you and me, eternally

♥
 yah! it's the first time someone gave me poem haha thank you plaridel! :D

by the way, i already told chamel who my crush is, HAHA after all the hesitation! LOL i drew him on a yellow (pink, actually) pad, even. nakakainis, he's everywhere! yaaaah, like usual! eto nanaman ako! majorcrush aleeerrrrrtttt!

my crush! my crush! lalalalalaaaaa.... haaaaaaay ♥

well, i think so.

the fight is never between the heart and the brain. it's just the brain all along. do you forget your wife when you get a heart transplant? no. then maybe love is just a state of mind. but above that, i'd like to think love is a state of our soul, not just our mind. i want to take it to a spiritual level but i can never tell. i mean, God loves us, and i'm not even sure if he has a tangible brain with hyperactive neurons racing past.  

hmm, i think it's more on the soul though. but whatever, me thinking about it only makes it harder for me to pick a candidate for *sigh* matrimony. LOL 

love is a beautiful thing to talk about... philosophically, not romantically. :P i've never talked about it this much. h
ahaha i'm not even half in love. wahahaha

more on my insights about love + the awesome time and space warp feature i saw on nat geo

it's funny how the couples i thought would never break up end up doing so after a couple of months (some, years). some separate for good, remain friends and move on happily. but i can't forgive those who break up and become bitter afterwards, like nothing good ever happened in the span of time they were together. ever heard of gratitude? it's cute how these people tweet and shouts out at FB about how romantic they are with each other, claiming "forever and ever ♥ ♥ ♥". whenever i read posts like that in my live feed, i feel happy for my friend/s. but after a few months, a relationship status changed to "single", and 50++ shocked comments, i ask myself, "huh? but why? they seem to be the happiest couple just yesterday."

i can't help but think how people actually love one another, or if they're really in love in the first place and not just deluded by the misleading emotions they get. i mean, love can be easily confused by infatuation, and even a crush. and putting love in vain is the saddest thing we could ever do to it.

imagine if Love were a person and we keep on mistaking other people for it, doesn't that hurt? like you can't even recognize it when it's what brought you to this world.

Love: hey, that's not me! that's Crush!
Crush: sorry, Love. guess they think you're too shallow they mistook you for me.
Love: :(

Love must've been a sad person, being recognized only by a few people. and Crush, on the other hand must be enjoying all the attention it gets being constantly mistaken for love.

anyway. guys. this must prove how utterly conservative i am when it comes to engaging in relationships, i don't easily admit i'm in love, i take time to realize it first before i say it out, because as i said, i don't want to put my feelings in vain. i don't want to hurt love, i avoid premature confessions (which i gathered, is the main cause for bitterness after breakups).

have i ever been in love? not yet. >:P

moving on...



i watched a super cool nat geo feature awhile ago (in the gym, while walking on a treadmill), i guess it was called Speeding Through the Universe or something... and it explained how speed is the key in studying how time and space works. it also talked about how immensely perilous a black hole can be, that when an object get sucked at it, even if it travels at the speed of light, it can never get out, that's how powerful its pull is. and worm holes, yesss, those time travel tunnels i see in scifi movies that never fail to fascinate me, they explained the concept of a wormhole using an equally cool illustration.

wormholes are tunnels that enable you to transfer from one point to another in a short span of time. sometimes you get transported to a different space, and at some other times at a different space AND time.

imagine the cosmos, the universe, as a 2d rubber mat (scientists refer to this as a cosmic fabric). you plot 2 points on opposite ends, and the goal is to reach point B from point A in the shortest span of time. of course, if you're referring to the universe, that would take lightyears. but if you fold the rubber mat, make the two points meet, and punch a hole in it, you got quite an impressive shortcut there. in the astronomical sense, yes, you've made a freaking worm hole. then again, that's very difficult to do, you literally have to tear parts of the universe in order to create one.

there are many many more things that got me hooked to the feature and i just love nat geo because it's so awesooooome. diba? i mean, i don't fancy reading science books so this was a big big help. and there are fractals everywhere. >8D reminds me of my friend, jec. haha

right. i want cabled TV in my room! :(

love knows no reason? the heck.

whoever said that is either too lazy or is not really in love.

i believe that there is a reason for everything. there is a reason for love. only God's love is a mystery, human love is not! you love someone because she's your friend, you love this kid cos he's your child, you love your boyfriend because? "uhhm, i can't explain it. i just love him!"

don't give me that crap. is it romantic when someone can't tell you why they love you? like it's supposed to sound utterly enigmatic and sweet because there are no words to describe how you love this person?

my sister and i agree to this, that there is always a reason for everything (uhm, well except miracles hehe yeaaah and that scalar energy thing). if you're truly in love, you give it your own definition. if you can't explain it, then you're not really in love. love doesn't run out of words. being speechless is not an excuse.

coming from your resident hopeless romantic. yours truly. >;P
that's probably the best shot i got about love, since i've never been there and i'm speaking out of second hand experience (books and friends).